Knowing how much I love drama and grey situations where there is no good nor bad, just a lot of “life’s just like that” situations, I loooooooved this book. Actually I have a lot of mantras that were repeated towards the end, like how everything boils down to choice and that love, the true and kind one, has commitment and choice and responsibility.

I won’t spoil everything for you but I just cannot resist sharing this teaser:

How do you know if you’ve found the one? Can you really love the one you’re with when you can’t forget the one who got away?

Emily Giffin, author of the New York Times bestselling novels Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and Baby Proof, poses these questions-and many more-with her highly anticipated, thought-provoking new novel Love the One You’re With.

Ellen and Andy’s first year of marriage doesn’t just seem perfect, it is perfect. There is no question how deep their devotion is, and how naturally they bring out the best in each other. But one fateful afternoon, Ellen runs into Leo for the first time in eight years. Leo, the one who brought out the worst in her. Leo, the one who left her heartbroken with no explanation. Leo, the one she could never quite forget. When his reappearance ignites long-dormant emotions, Ellen begins to question whether the life she’s living is the one she’s meant to live. At once heartbreaking and funny, Love the One You’re With is a tale of lost loves and found fortunes-and will resonate with anyone who has ever wondered what if.

Some excerpts I loved:

"Love is the sum of our choices, the strength of our commitments, the ties that bind us together."

"How different this moment feels, for so many reasons. I tell myself that no two loves are identical – but that I don’t have to compare anymore."

"Love as a verb. Love as a commitment."

"Maybe that’s what it all comes down to. love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all."

"What every girl dreams of when she’s dumped is – that the guy will someday feel regret and come back and tell her all about it. And the beauty of it is you have no regrets whatsoever."

"Did she ever regret her choices? Were her decisions more clear-cut than mine – or are there always shades of gray when it comes to matters of the heart?"

"True love is supposed to make you into a better person-uplift you."

"Instead of relief or gratitude, more guilt washes over me. Andy’s certainly not faultless – no one ever is in a marriage"

"Change can be good but its always tough to let go of the past"

"He threw in the towel before we were tested. Maybe because he didn’t want to be tested. Maybe because he assumed we would fail. Maybe because, at the time, he just didn’t love me enough."

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